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Looking to chat with Bio Male Partners of Gay Identified FTM

Imperial-Animus — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 22:37:17 GMT

I'm looking to make friends with partners/significant others of Gay FTM. I'm finding this a far more daunting task than anticipated....even though I live in Chicago! Sadly, I've been somewhat "rejected" by the Bio Gay Male community and, since my partner identifies as gay, the FTM community is slightly weird around me too. :(

Just looking to create an open dialogue and develop friendships, maybe share experiences!

Thanks!

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Time

architecturematters — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 04:17:30 GMT

How long did it take people to transition. By that I mean from when you decided to do something about it like come out to the point where you stopped working at it.

I've been feeling all sorts of ick and terror about it lately. I mean I feel like I'm doing what's best by going slow and being safe. I'm not at the point where I'm totally comfortable physically or mentally. Like I'm still working on the blasted hair and my skin hasn't gotten as thick as I like when it comes to people calling me sir. So on one side I want some stability and safety and on the other I just want to be myself all the time.

I feel like there must be something wrong with me because it's taking me so long despite all the support I've received from friends. 'sigh'

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Name Change

Magdelyn — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 04:09:25 GMT

Yay, me! I filed the paperwork to legally change my name to Magdelyn Clarisse. Woo hoo!

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Trans as F*ck This Saturday June 7!!

stormaldo — Thu, 05 Jun 2008 05:43:18 GMT

TRANS AS F*CK An evening of TranSEXxxhibitionism that rocks the gender bound world!

Saturday, June 7th
9:30
@ SomArts in San Francisco

Tix $8-15 sliding scale http://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/33876

Join us for an evening of erotic performance where transgender and genderqueer performers will explore, celebrate and heal what it means to be sexual in our trans bodies. Trans as Fuck is radical performance that shatters the confines of sexual expectations. This show is about expressing and exposing ourselves. Quite literally.

Featuring performances by Charlie Anders as Emcee, 'ron daniella, solidad decosta, Luis Gutierrez-Mock, Storm Florez, Seeley Quest, Helen Wong and a short film by Annie Danger

http://www.queerculturalcenter.org/Pages/QFest08/TransAs.html

Curated by Storm Florez. Original concept by Seeley Quest and Storm Florez

A part of the San Francisco National Queer Arts Festival

Add us to your Myspace! http://www.myspace.com/transasf_ck

***INFORMED CONSENT: There will be consensual, explicit sexual content in the show. Audience members are welcome to leave at any time during any performance; however there will be no ticket refunds.

This is an 18 and older event.

Trans as Fuck: Exhibitionism at its finest! Trans as Fuck was founded in 2004 by Bay Area artists/activists, Seeley Quest and Storm Florez. The two artists were each looking for places to celebrate and heal their relationships with their bodies and sexuality via performance and realized that no such venue existed for trans and genderqueer people. The two decided to create a show specifically for this purpose.

The show has been a great success and has showcased a hot and talented line-up of performers with heartfelt, humorous and intense acts, some which have included stripping, body manipulation like piercing and pumping, erotic dance, fisting, squirting and carrots in butts.

Performers incorporate music, spoken word and frank discussion in their pieces which has allowed audience members to connect and engage with what's happening on stage. This year, Trans as Fuck was the recipient of a Queer Cultural Center grant, and will be featured in the 2008 National Queer Arts Festival.

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Gender Pill

daraz — Thu, 20 Dec 2007 20:39:48 GMT

The other topic i wanted to post about (besides roommmate interviews)...

I've heard there's some pill now to repress traumatic experieces for PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder).

So if scientists one day managed to come up with a pill that could make your gender the same as your body (rather than a sex change), would you take it or transition anyway (for those that would consider transition)?

Just thought i'd stir up some interesting discussion on here as it's been pretty dead lately...

Ho, ho, ho, :)

-Heather

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The Final Edition of the ICP

Ron — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 15:03:52 GMT

Dear Friends of the International Carnival of Pozitivities:

It is with both joy and sadness that I am writing to announce the final edition of the ICP. After you receive this notice, I will delete the mailing list for the ICP from my files and you will no longer receive announcements about the project. I was placed on a new drug regimen about 2 months ago and have experienced a serious side effect to the new meds. I am no longer able to continue to maintain the project as a result.

Please know that it has been a joy to bring you the ICP for the past 2 years and that I wish I could continue the project into the future. However, my focus has to be on my own healing now. For those of you who have contributed or hosted the ICP, my heartfelt gratitude can hardly be expressed. For those who blog about HIV/AIDS and who fight to end the stigma of this disease, I urge you to continue your work. We are all in the fight of our lives.

Many, many thanks to Sokari at Blacklooks for hosting the final edition of the ICP at the following link:

http://www.blacklooks.org/2008/06/international_carnival_of_positives_-_final_edition.html

Please visit, read and leave your feedback for the host and the contributors in this, the last edition of the ICP.

I wish you all peace and health.

Much love.

Ron Hudson

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California Supreme Court Overturns Gay Marriage Ban

steveargue2 — Fri, 16 May 2008 15:59:57 GMT

[This is a major victory for the people! Thankfully, public pressure has made the California Supreme Court take the right stand. This decision that "domestic partnerships are not a good enough substitute for marriage" is to the left of Obama and Clinton, both of whom oppose Gay/Lesbian marriage. -Steven Argue]

May 15, 2008

California Supreme Court Overturns Gay Marriage Ban
By THE ASSOCIATED PRESS

Filed at 1:05 p.m. ET

SAN FRANCISCO (AP) -- The California Supreme Court has overturned a ban on gay marriage, paving the way for California to become the second state where gay and lesbian residents can marry.

The justices released the 4-3 decision Thursday, saying that domestic partnerships are not a good enough substitute for marriage in an opinion written by Chief Justice Ron George.

The cases were brought by the city of San Francisco, two dozen gay and lesbian couples, Equality California and another gay rights group in March 2004 after the court halted San Francisco's month-long same-sex wedding march that took place at Mayor Gavin Newsom's direction.

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Queer film makers looking for extras

Kai — Sun, 18 May 2008 13:40:39 GMT

Hey,

I am posting this from an e-mail I received in case anyone is interested.

Peace,

Kai

Hi Everyone!

So we're in the home stretch of filming our queer-centered feature film and we have some crucial scenes coming up in the next two weeks where we have a need female/trans extras. Here are our shooting dates:

May 20, 21, 24
June 7, 8

If you are interested in being in our film, we'd love to have you. No acting experience necessary and no specific look we are seeking, just be yourself! We want to represent all aspects of the community--and that means you! You can learn more about it by visiting our myspace page: http://www.myspace.com/batgirlmovie

Just drop us a line at batgirl2008@gmail.com letting us know your availability on those dates and we'll be sure to get in touch with you and figure out where you'd best fit! A picture isnt necessary, but would be great just so we can get a sense of who you are. Please share this information with friends and others you may think might be interested. Thank you!!!!!

Love,
Bat Girl

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Two Families Grapple with Son's Gender Preferences

architecturematters — Sun, 11 May 2008 23:03:00 GMT

http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=90247842#share

Thoughts?

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I know this may sound silly.. or even upset some people.. but..

Liana — Mon, 07 Apr 2008 00:59:19 GMT

Im trans... MTF...
Im wanting to start hormones.. but im scared a few things may happen..
First off.. and i know some may hate what i will say.. but i have no plans for SRS.. i see it as mutilation... as much as i feel like and need to be a woman.. i can not see myself letting someone change that part of me.

Second.. i have been male far too long... and i like the genitals i have and how they work.. i understand them.. and im happy to have what i have..
I do not want it to turn useless if i start hormones...i just want the female apearance i crave... and i know i should have to begin with.. im worried also about the blood clots and heart problems.. but their is not a Dr i can see.. where i live the Drs are worried about their reputations.. so they wont help me..

Im not sure what to do.. not to mention im on SSDI.. and living out in the middle of redneck USA bum fudged egypt in the sticks.. where if you do what i plan to do then your going aginst gods will.. plus i live with my father and he has no clue.. my mother knows.. in fact her entire side of the family knows.. and understand but they all live in another state up north...
If my father found out.. he would have a heart attack... and im already 27.. its like too late im scared.. and if i start hormones.. ill not be very atractive and no one will want me for the rest of my life.....
So.. im not sure what to do.. or what im doing..

Any advice?
A point in a good direction would be good...

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I managed to humiliate myself again.

Magdelyn — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 02:48:29 GMT

Yesterday, with the weather beautiful and all, I went out to the city. I started drinking early and often. I let people buy me drinks. As it rolled around toward eight O'clock, I was drunk dialing. By 8:15 p.m., I literally passed out on a corner of a street near 17th and Cole. I recall vomiting, and people walking by and asking are you all right? "Yes. I'm okay." Some girl insisted on calling an ambulance. "I'm all right." Then nothing. Black. I only awake when half the San Francisco fire department came buy. "I'm all right." I said, unable to lift myself off the sidewalk. "I just want to go home."

Next thing I know, I am on my way to the emergency room. "We have an intoxicated female, in route to Davies," I heard the EMS guy say over the radio. "I'm male," I said weakly. "Okay, honey. Anything you say. We call 'em like you present."

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Save your money,

architecturematters — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 22:55:11 GMT

I tried IPL (intense pulsed light) hair removal, from everything was told and read I was an ideal candidate, dark hair with light skin. Between treatments I was nearly hairless for at least a few weeks, strangers started using the right pronouns, it seemed to work great. It's been 4 months since my last treatment and I've had at MOST a 20% reduction in hair if any, I've noticed it getting thicker and thicker each week, I feel like I'm going through a 3rd puberty. Don't waste your money on this, while it is a small time commitment (1 hour every 6-8 weeks) and you see really great results after about a week or two it just doesn't work.

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trans friendly doctors

toe.may.toe — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 13:59:30 GMT

Does anyone have a reference for a trans friendly doctor or clinic in Humboldt County?

many thanks,

Maggie

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Newbie here, asking for advice.

Joey — Mon, 14 Apr 2008 01:33:04 GMT

Hi, I'm Joey, 25 male. I only like to cross dress occasionally when I go to clubs, so I'm not really a full CD.
My concern right now is that my upper body is a little too bulky and muscular to pull off as a girl. I've started going to 24 Hour Fitness and doing lots of cardio and am eating salads and low carb-protein diets.
But I went to Vitamin Shoppe today and bought Mexican WIld Yam supplement, which I've read helps in promoting estrogen in women. I'm wondering if taking that pill will help to decrease my muscle mass.
I don't want to take estrogen supplements because I like my lower torso the way it is. I just want to reduce my upper torso.
Any advice?
I can email anybody a picture of me if that would help any.
Thanks!

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Spring and the Blooming Tranny...

cherryutopia — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 01:38:03 GMT

I love Spring...I always feel just like a beautiful flower coming out of my frozen ground blooming at midnight and ready to set the nights on fire again....Blessed be...

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east bay???

DeWayne — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 19:02:33 GMT

just trying to get an idea of what's going on in the east bay for queers. i recently moved here from nyc and i other than a couple of clubs, i don't know what's going on. trying to meet some sweet and sexy guys for friendship, bootie, whatever. where y'all at?

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Sometimes I wonder why the T really is in LGBT

Magdelyn — Wed, 19 Mar 2008 04:12:58 GMT

i am waiting in line at starbucks on 18th street, near castro, when this table of six older gay guys start harassing me by saying stuff behind my back just loud enough for me to hear. the first is like, 'is that a girl or a guy?' then the other is like, 'its a guy, you can always tell because they wear make-up.' then they start comment on my butt. one says something about my "large ass" then the others start taking about 'largess,' in silly little comments. this is not the first time gay guys have put me down. i find it amazing. i am 5'10", active, a former marine, and i didn't grow up in no freakin middle-class, american-dream suburb. I could spill any of these fuckers. it takes a lot of moxie to be insulting someone who can kick your ass. most of the guys that do the insulting look like they've never been in a fist fight. where the hell do they get off doing that? and why is it alright to be insulting me, when most of them have been subject to harassment about their orientation. it's bullshit. i am fucking getting sick of it.

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2008 Divas in Las Vegas

rooty — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 21:36:11 GMT

Anyone attending divas in las vegas 4/23 - 4/27..Searching for tg friendly clubs and bondage partners for las vegas!

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weight loss

Lisa V — Sun, 03 Feb 2008 06:13:54 GMT

I am wondering if any one knows where my weight should be in order to be a size 6. I am 5'11'' and have a medium frame. I want to be able to set goals before I start hormones to achieve the most success especially since most girls tend to gain weight. Please let me know if any one is or knows someone of similar height and frame. I really would appreciate it. Thanks, Lisa

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ICP 2.9 now available at Creampuff Revolution

Ron — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 17:43:17 GMT

Dear Friends of the International Carnival of Pozitivities (ICP):

It is a tremendous pleasure to announce the publication of edition 2.9 of the ICP at the following link:

http://rosemaryrowe.typepad.com/creampuff_revolution/2008/03/creampuff-welco.html

Creampuff, a.k.a., Roro, who hails from Vancouver, is our first repeat host from Canada. I encourage you to bookmark this edition and visit it over time so that you can enjoy each of the contributions from the world of HIV/AIDS. I hope that you will also join me in thanking Roro for her work this month. We “met” about 2 years ago during the NHL Hockey Championship between Edmonton and the Carolina Hurricanes and have been fast friends since despite some rather competitive invocation of mojo to make our teams win the Stanley Cup. Roro’s sense of compassion combined with her sense of humor makes me quite happy to count her among my friends.

This 21st consecutive edition of the ICP features personal accounts, video, a special musical contribution from UK band Slovo, self-help information and the latest in news from the HIV/AIDS community. I hope that you will spend some time reading and that you will leave comments for the contributors. It is through your comments that we can hone our messages and learn how you feel about our work. Please feel free to leave your thoughts with each of the contributors and for our gracious host.

Next Edition

Please visit the ICP homepage to learn more about this project and how you can contribute here:

http://www.internationalcarnivalofpozitivities.blogspot.com .

We are now accepting submissions for edition 2.10 to be hosted here, at Mshairi:

http://www.mshairi.com/blog

This will be Mshairi’s first stint as host of the ICP although she has been a frequent contributor in the past. Mshairi’s edition will mark the first time that the ICP will have been hosted by an African host. If you like poetry, you should scroll through her blog. A selection of her poetry also appears at one of my favorite sites, The Other Voices Poetry International Project, an anthology of poetry from around the world that has been recognized by UNESCO, here:

http://www.othervoicespoetry.org

Mshairi's work appears under the title “Footprints” here:

http://othervoicespoetry.org/vol27/mshairi/index.html .

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Peace to you and yours.

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Urgent: New LGBT Rights Laws In Oregon Under Major Attack!

daraz — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 22:24:55 GMT

Folks-

Anyone in Oregon, please REFUSE to sign either of the ballot initiatives below. I normally would sign anything to give it a chance either way on the ballot as part of democracy.

However, these initiatives are biggotted and immoral and thus should be blocked!

Please feel free to forward the messages below to others for educational purposes...

Thank you,

-Heather

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In addition to the anti-equality petition that would repeal Oregon's domestic partnership law, our opposition has filed another that would overturn legislation that makes discrimination in housing, employment and public accommodations against the law. We know Oregonians support these laws, and we will do everything we can do stop these anti-equality activists from turning the clock back on equality.
Anti-equality interests need to collect nearly 83,000 signatures by July to put their petitions on the November 2008 ballot. Basic Rights Oregon is committed to closely monitoring the signature gathering process to ensure that all elections rules are followed.

If you haven't already, take a moment to Sign the Pledge to Defend Equality, and send it on to friends, family members, and colleagues.
Read more about BRO's response to the repeal initiatives. We'll keep you in the loop whenever new information is available.

Onward,
Jeana Frazzini
Executive Director
Basic Rights Oregon

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Basic Rights Oregon has learned that Oregon State Senator Fred Girod and State Rep. Sal Esquivel have filed an initiative to repeal Oregon's domestic partnership law. Outrageously, this time around the effort is being spearheaded by state legislators whose duty it is to protect Oregonians.
What can you do?
Sign the Pledge to Defend Equality!
Tell a friend about the Pledge to Defend Equality!
Make a contribution to Basic Rights Oregon.

We cannot afford to be complacent. To put this divisive and discriminatory measure on the November 4, 2008 ballot, they will need to collect about 83,000 valid signatures by July 3.

We knew this was in the works. When our opponents failed to gather enough signatures for their referendum effort last year, they vowed to try again. We knew that even though we fought them - and won - in court, they would not give up. And here they are, with yet another divisive and discriminatory proposal, backed by out-of-state groups with deep pockets to fund their unpopular agenda.

Sign the Pledge to Defend Equality!

Ask your friends, family, and colleagues to sign the pledge!

We now know most Oregonians aren't buying what these guys are selling. Oregonians don't want to put their LGBT neighbors in harm's way. Oregonians believe that loving couples who have made a lifelong commitment to one another should have the basic security provided by domestic partnerships.

The groups in charge of last year's referendum efforts still have investigations pending against them in the Secretary of State's office. We don't think they are above cheating again - and we'll make sure they don't get away with breaking the law. Basic Rights Oregon will monitor their efforts to make sure they follow the rules.

At the same time, we will continue to mobilize fair-minded Oregonians across this state to take a stand for equality - through voter outreach, public education, media engagement, and grassroots organizing.

Stay tuned! Basic Rights Oregon will keep you informed every step of the way.

Jeana Frazzini,
Executive Director
Basic Rights Oregon
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When youre on a date....

Wanderingwolf — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 20:56:22 GMT

what goes through your head at the first meeting? what do you think aobut when first meeting potential dating material in that romantic setting?

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Cloistered in San Francisco

Magdelyn — Tue, 26 Feb 2008 05:46:04 GMT

Someone, who has never met me, offered to fly me out to Las Vegas to spend the weekend with him. Another person invited me to the Tonga Room for drinks. I declined both, because I wouldn't feel comforatable in those environments. I kind of slum around San Francisco.

I think fear is holding me back. So sad.

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Does anyone else feel depressed...

Magdelyn — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 06:47:47 GMT

out of their minds? Or is it just me?

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Seattle:MTF-friendly, Nonjudgmental, Not Too Expensive Endo?

jessamyn — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 13:47:06 GMT

Hi. I'm Jesse.

I need to get some stuff dealt with regarding me and my pals, hormones. Been on hormones since the first term of the Clinton Administration, been doing it myself since my last doctor went psycho on me in, 2000. I'm getting older now and I'm less tolerant of risk and shady mail-order.

Seattle? Because I live there. Okay, in Bothell. Stop laughing, you can get a 2-bedroom sort of cheap here.

MTF friendly? Well, because I'm an MTF.

Nonjudgmental? Not skinny, not pretty, not femmey, been "outside the system" for a while and I have a kid, and at that I'm a single mom. (My daughter, who's 4, is the light of my life and the reason I survive. And she's finally potty-trained!) Oh, and though i transitioned long ago, I haven't had SRS. Oh and, of course, I have no documentation worth anything because, like, I've been busy being me. People generally don't notice or don't care, but I feel like generally amongst trans people I am being judged.

Not too expensive: I have insurance, sure, but they pay nothing for me and my toddling toddler until we hit $2950 a year in deductible. I make about 30 grand. You know as well as i do that 30k a year in Seattle with a child doesn't go that far. The clinics (Country Doctor, Pike Market) want to charge me outrageous fees because I have insurance, which is kind of stupid since $2950 is a big deductible. That's 10% of my income...before taxes. The clinics have been rather inflexible; Pike Market was at least nice, Country Doctor really wasn't. I need to level with folks that I already am living at the mercy of the food bank, though the food bank up here in Bothell is pretty good.I can blow $200 the first time and $100 a follow-up. I can't afford "actual cost of lab tests, $150 a visit, and any billing surcharges since you have insurance."

I know I need better insurance, but in my current job things are okay and they pay half my childcare and don't yell at me when I have to take a couple of days off for the sniffles. I know I should be better connected, but I don't share much life experience with other trans people, and when you ask the gay and lesbian center if they know anyone, they point you to Ingersoll, and then Ingersoll just stonewalls you and says to come to meetings. No, thanks. There's no childcare.

Anyone have any solutions for my predicament? Or at least ideas where to look and explore?

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I have a few questions about the effects of estrogen.

taq — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 07:34:04 GMT

hello,
I'm a teenage boy, and a few months ago, I started to experiment with estrogen in my body. Nothing much happened besides slightly enlarged breasts. I was taking it in very small dosage and not at all frequently.
Last week, my cousin told me to stop and talk to my doctor first. I haven't been able to do this yet, but I will soon.
I was reading another post on the affects of estrogen, and it told me a lot of things I should expect if I went compleatly serious with it. They were all things I wanted.
But I wanted to know If it could be dangerous to take it during my teenage hood. Because I know its a fragile time for my hormones, and I don't to mess up my self by doing anything stupid.

thank you,
Taq

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Transgender short on youtube

iMax — Sun, 10 Feb 2008 03:11:17 GMT

I invite you to check out this indie short on youtube
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_7uwJsGaPUk

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ICP 2.8 now available

Ron — Sat, 09 Feb 2008 18:16:21 GMT

Dear Friends of the International Carnival of Pozitivities (ICP):

It is a tremendous pleasure to announce the publication of edition 2.8 of the ICP at

http://notperfectatall.blogspot.com/2008/02/icp-28.html

Dragonette is our first European host, working from The Netherlands I encourage you to bookmark this edition and visit it over time so that you can enjoy each of the contributions from the world of HIV/AIDS. I hope that you will also join me in thanking Dragonette for her work this month.

This 20th consecutive edition of the ICP features personal accounts, video, music, self-help information and the latest in news from the HIV/AIDS community. Among these posts, you will find news about HIV/AIDS from around the world, posts from long-term survivors, an Annie Lennox HIV-prevention video, news and personal accounts from Africa, Australia, Asia, Europe, and North and South America. I hope that you will spend some time reading and that you will leave comments for the contributors.

Next Edition

Please visit the ICP homepage to learn more about this project and how you can contribute at the following link:

http://internationalcarnivalofpozitivities.blogspot.com

We are now accepting submissions for edition 2.9 to be hosted at Creampuff Revolution, located here:

http://rosemaryrowe.typepad.com/creampuff_revolution/

This will be Roro’s second stint as host of the ICP. Her writing style is beautiful, funny, clever and guaranteed to make your ICP experience a good one. Please consider contributing your original artwork, poetry, news, personal accounts, short stories, videos or music files for the next edition.

Contribute Your Work

Please join the growing community of contributors and hosts for this important international forum for genuine voices of AIDS. If you are interested in hosting the ICP, please send an email to ron.hudson@verizon.net and I will make the process for you as painless as possible. We urgently need new volunteer hosts for the ICP editions after March, 2008. If any of you have previously hosted or if you are first-time host, I will work with you to make the process as fun as it can be. It would be especially cool to have a volunteer host for the April edition.

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Peace to you and yours.

Ron Hudson

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Cum See Me Read at the V-Day Beat Me Up!

Magdelyn — Sat, 09 Feb 2008 07:33:11 GMT

Come see me at the Valentine's Day Beat Me Up! Thursday, February 14, 2008 at 8:30 PM until 1 AM. Location: Edges Playspace in San Jose. RSVP to events@edges.biz for location. More Info: 408-496-1132. www.edges.biz

Membership NOT required. All attendees $25 each
RSVP for location in San Jose: events@edges.biz

What better show your loved ones how much they mean to you than with sizzling smut and hot naked girls? Come for the performances and stay for the kinky play party. We’ll be serving up a human sundae for consumption!

Telling tales of Valentine's Day gone right or gone wrong, or making you feel all hot: Magdelyn Clarisse Prossy, Raina Bird, Lady Monster, The Solid Golddiggers, Lilycat, and more....

http://sanfrancisco.tribe.net/event/BEAT-ME-UP-Erotic-Spoken-Word-Burlesque-Dirty-Play/san-jose-ca/309fbb41-93fa-414a-8a0d-5aaf445d4371

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i need HELP!

patrick — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 02:39:19 GMT

im thinkin bout havin a sex change...dnt know how it works...or if i should! its just hard know that u feel different inside and people are expecting different from u! it sucks!

anyone..... especially in los angeles who can help me or give me some advice...please please...its been buggin me for years now.....just scared n i dnt know what to do!!!

email me? ....blu_ice69@yahoo.com

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Fee Leengs

drogulus — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 05:32:59 GMT

Women's emotions are sort of like the feedback distortion from a speaker. A woman's feelings are more like an electric guitar, but men's emptions are like an acoustic (or sometimes a mandolin).

Any thoughts on this?

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The Dangers of Hormones!!

cherryutopia — Thu, 27 Dec 2007 02:55:43 GMT

Hi,As a transgender m2f who is taking hormones,I am alittle scared of the blood clot,heart disease,stroke chances..Is anyone else?

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How can I Hide effects of mtf hrt at work

Lisa V — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 23:37:14 GMT

I will be starting hrt very soon. I currently make very good money at my job but in the type of work I do I will not be able to transition and continue to work. I work in a very mucho caveman field so I need to hide the effects as long as possible. I am in my early 30's so I cannot wait anymore because the older I get the harder it becomes to pass. I plan to go back to school at night and start taking courses to become a nurse. I should be able to transfer a great majority of my existing credits in order to breeze through the program and become an rn. I believe this is a good move because it gives me a chance at a job after tranisition that is in demand and will allow me to move and start fresh in stealth. I want to know if there are any repercutions to binding and prossibly leaving some facial hair until I have saved money and have enough to move and start fresh. I know it will really be hard emotionally to hide the joy within at times during my transition but I can't wait any longer I need to get my life going in the direction I always have dreamed and believed I should have. I feel if I can accomplish this now I wil have a post op life with less worry or hardships associated with work related issues. Can any of you give me some suggestions?

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They hate me!!!

cherryutopia — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 06:15:14 GMT

Well,I know that there is hate out there but come on why do they really hate us..I went out to eat with a friend.A group of people who were eating just stopped what they were doing and made a scene.Saying that they shouldn't have to eat with freaks.I was so embarressed and I just told my friend to take me home.I feel I am some what passable.Why do they hate so easily?Has anyone had something like this happen to they?And how do you get over that?I mean I will never go back to that place to eat again.The people who worked there didn't even stop this man from ranting horrible words to me.And everyone around me either stared or just looked away. I worry that this hatefull scene is going to make me alittle Agoraphobic.

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Insurance Experience? (Cali)

Tue, 14 Aug 2007 15:25:29 GMT

Hi there, I'm currently self-employed and am experiencing rejection on getting my own insurance. I'm young, a non-smoker with no diseases so the only thing that I can think of to cause them to reject me is my HRT and my previous surgical experience. Anyone have experience getting insurance as a transperson want to recommend some companies or methods? I would appreciate it greatly.

Thanks,
Mercedes

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frustrations with transition care: more harm than good sometimes

daraz — Wed, 16 Jan 2008 23:14:51 GMT

Hmmm...things have been relatively quiet on here for a while, time for me to stir up more trouble, hee, hee... :>

Without getting into a long explanation, i have to state that a lot of my stress in the last year with transition was related to care providers and feeling forced to interact overly with them due to the Benjamin Standards of Care. To be clear, these care providers did not resist my crystal clarity about transition. I am very good at self-education, deductive reasoning, problem solving, and do best when allowed to think and act creativel outside the box, whatever box that may be.

While i'd say the BSC is useful to a degree in current form, and should be the default at least when there is uncertainty about a person's gender or desire to transition, my experiences with doctors, therapists, and related bureaucracy really became a major source of stress and frustration which ultimately led to a painful kidney stone i had to have removed around T-Day.

I likely would have fared better had i not experienced so much difficulty as above. Now that i'm past the orchiectomy and transition and passability are no longer the major foci of my life, i have now reduced the role of care providers that was required before and am moving on quite well with life.

I am wondering if others out there have had similar frustrating or detrimental experiences (please post)...?

posted in Transgender - 10 replies

Important question...

(((Sky))) Nebeulah faerie faggot — Mon, 21 Jan 2008 23:34:38 GMT

Is it bad to use expired testosterone?

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Am I a sexist...

Magdelyn — Fri, 04 Jan 2008 04:07:07 GMT

just because I choose to dress provocatively? And does my interpretation of the feminine, if not sufficiently P.C., make me a bad person? I just wanna know, because I've been accused of sexism for my presentation, and for telling people I am a receptionist (which is not true) because it is a position in the pink collar ghetto.

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Edition 2.7 of the International Carnival of Pozitivities Available

Ron — Sat, 12 Jan 2008 15:52:25 GMT

Dear Friends of the International Carnival of Pozitivities (ICP):

It is a tremendous pleasure to announce the publication of edition 2.7 of the ICP at

http://www.thespincycle.blogspot.com/2008/01/as-positive-as-you-wanna-be-icp-27.html

Matty the Damned at The Spin Cycle

(http://www.thespincycle.blogspot.com)

has graciously served as our host for this month...from Australia. Bless his heart, Matty has a way with words. I have to include a STRONG LANGUAGE WARNING for you to consider, but what is a little language when you are dealing with a terminal illness? I hope that you will read this article and overlook any part that might offend you to see through to the good in the messages that we share to raise awareness about HIV/AIDS.

This 19th consecutive edition of the ICP features personal accounts, video, self-help information and the latest in news from the HIV/AIDS community. I hope that you will spend some time reading and that you will leave comments for the contributors.

Next Edition

Please visit the ICP homepage to learn more about this project and how you can contribute at the following link:

http://internationalcarnivalofpozitivities.blogspot.com

We are now accepting submissions for edition 2.8 to be hosted at NotPerfectAtAll, located here:

http://notperfectatall.blogspot.com/

Please consider contributing your original artwork, poetry, news, personal accounts, short stories, videos or music files for the next edition.

Please Share with Your Friends

Please share this notice with your friends and consider posting announcements of our link on your blogs and websites. Our continuing presence is bolstered by your participation and outreach. Please help spread the word.

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To be Removed From or Added To the ICP mailing list:

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Peace to you and yours.

Ron Hudson

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Friend Invitations.

Magdelyn — Fri, 04 Jan 2008 23:58:24 GMT

If someone invites you to be their friend, but it appears by their request, that they think you are a girl, would you accept?

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Trannysaurus Sex at Club Feral...

TheFloatingCorpses — Fri, 04 Jan 2008 02:47:00 GMT

dear peerz across the stratusfearz, a show for your consideration, a Club Feral presents at Thee Parkside on Sat. Jan. 5th. Anyone who has gone know these are fun shows, and this one promises to deliver more than it's share of transcendant inspiration and body heat, with The Floating Corpses, Jenny Hoyston's Paradise Island, with Trannysaurus Sex being the three bands playing, along with a drag performance by Jupiter, and Dj's Frankie Sharp and Rhanimals. 9pm, $5. This is a bar 21/up show, so fans/friends under 21, sorry. We are playing Gilman on Jan 18th with the Avengers, which is of course all ages, and will be doing other all ages venues in the future, t.b.a. Parkside is at 1600 17th St. @ Wisconsin. San Francisco.

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Ever get the feeling that you are hideous...

Magdelyn — Sun, 30 Dec 2007 02:14:56 GMT

and everybody is just too polite to tell you? That is how I feel.

posted in Transgender - 9 replies

Hormones give you more pubic hair?

Magdelyn — Tue, 25 Dec 2007 06:04:05 GMT

Does anyone know whether estrogen and t-blockers makes your pubic hair denser? it seems to be having that effect on me.

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strong estrogen influence back in high school (anyone else?)

daraz — Sat, 29 Dec 2007 16:17:18 GMT

In case i didn't stir up enough on this tribe recently, here's another one... ;)

It seems every chance my body gets it feminizes rapidly. Despite the spiro failure (digestive blockage) and rapid masculinization, after the orchiectomy, to my surprize things have changed back the other way nearly as fast...and that was going almost a month without taking any estrogen. Seems my body naturally produces a fair amount of estrogen on its own.

When looking at old pics from middle and high school recently, the estrogen influence in facial markers was quite obvious. Frankly, i almost would have been more passable as female back then than now after HRT for ~ a year so far. I know folks didn't really know about such markers back in the day, though it's plain as day now.

I have realized recently that the way i have felt recently when the estrogen has really dominated as very similar to high school. Rather than transition being something new mentally & emotionally, it seems more like reruns of that earlier time in my life, than something novel.

I'm wondering: have others out there had a similar experience, or once again am i just a freak of nature (like losing an inch in height)?

PS-Though there are other possibilities, i do suspect that i may be genetically female and plan to get that tested in January, as then my insurance may be forced to pay for meds if not the big surgery, we'll see.

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In Reno...

Magdelyn — Tue, 01 Jan 2008 08:00:07 GMT

Depressed. Hope this year is better for all of us.

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Trans-Dating

architecturematters — Wed, 25 Apr 2007 04:36:07 GMT

Okay, the glamor of being single has kinda worn off and I'm ready to get out there. I'm not really sure how to go about it. I live in podunk where the only gay friendly bar is 3 hours away. In chat I get harrassed by insecure dirty old men, and when I do meet a women they always run off when I mention I'm a tranny. I don't think it's right for me to hide that fact, and at 6'3" it's just impractical. Anyways, I was wondering where people have had luck dating, online or other...

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NEW HERE!

randi — Mon, 24 Dec 2007 06:44:45 GMT

Hi my name is Randi and I just joined Tribe a few days ago. I am a female-identified, submissive M2F T-girl living in the southern part of Riverside County, California near Temecula, about halfway between Los Angeles and San Diego.

I am looking to meet a self assured admirer who is looking to meet and date a well educated T-girl who has her head on straight. If you live in Southern California, and after looking at my Tribe profile and would like to meet, drop me a note here...I'll respond quickly.

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Roommate interviews

daraz — Thu, 20 Dec 2007 20:36:36 GMT

Hi folks-

I'm in the process of roommate interviews (it's a 2 bedroom apartment), and was wondering if it was better to be really up front at the end of good interviews, or wait until i call someone back over to hopefully move in.

I hate revealing myself to that many strangers, so my method so far has been to call women back still interested after the interview, and one by one do the "reveal" until i get one that is okay with me being a transwoman. The drawback is that it can be slow to go thru them one by one and by then some find other places to rent.

For those that are already living full-time as their preferred gender, and are passable enough interviewees wouldn't know, what has your experience been with this?

Input appreciated...

Happy holidays,

-Heather

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Transgender and AIDS

Magdelyn — Mon, 17 Dec 2007 04:32:48 GMT

Wow. This is fascinating: http://www.surgeongeneral.gov/aids/factsheets/transgender.html

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Parents

drogulus — Sat, 08 Dec 2007 15:28:43 GMT

I just emailed a letter coming out to my parents.

I wonder if this feels similar to what it would be like to hit the button that starts WWIII. Nothing to do but to sit back and wait for the return fire.

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Trans friendly event in SF 12/21

Max-Voltage-SF — Sun, 09 Dec 2007 18:14:30 GMT

Hi Folks,

If you don't have plans on Friday, December 21, happen to be in the SF area & don't identify as male.. you might enjoy this event.

I both am & identify as intersexed & will be attending.

Also, for those so inclined, there is an event at the the Citadel later than night.. Queer Playground.. maybe I'll see you there.

for more info on the Exiles, check out their website:
http://www.theexiles.org/home.html

Max

- - - - - - - - -

Exiles December Program
Friday, December 21, 2007
8:00 PM, The Women's Building

Carnal Carnival
Friday, December, 21 2007

Don't miss it! Come join our deliciously decadent night of debauchery! Have a ball at the Carnal Carnival! Wanna grind up against a hot piece of fantasy that could only come from the wicked minds of the women of The Exiles? Come immerse yourself in steamy fun and games, try new adventures, test your limits, tantalize yourself, laugh at our kinky games, and PLAY!

SAMPLE the amazing visual delights--peep shows, circle jerks, and scintillating lap dancers.

ESCAPE into the strong supple hands of a bootblack.

SCREAM with delight as you are expertly caned or flogged by our mouth-watering tops, or as you try your hand on one of our willing bottoms.

GASP as you try and catch your breath while receiving paddling ministrations from our evil tops, or administer a spanking the most magnificent ass in all of kinkdom.

ROAR with delight as you play some of the sexiest games on the planet-including Vibrator Races sponsored by Good Vibrations.

WIN cool raffle prizes throughout the evening, including goodies and CA$H

Latecomers WILL be admitted--you will have in and out privileges. Our FTM friends are welcome to this program. Remember, by spending a little of your hard-earned money at The Exiles Carnal Carnival, you are supporting BDSM education and outreach to the women's community at large (not to mention the wicked world of wonders you will no doubt enjoy). You can still come and have fun even if you don't have lots o'cash: everyone will be given some starter Exiles Bucks to spend for the price of the standard program fee.

We are also participating in MAMA'S TOY DRIVE, so please bring a NEW unwrapped child's gift or toy. We also need gift cards to music or clothing stores for the teen group. Or have Mama shop for you: checks can be made out to "Mama's Toy Drive." See www.mamasfamily.org for more details.

CARNIVAL VOLUNTEERS NEEDED
FREE ADMISSION, including carnival tickets, if you volunteer to work at a booth for an hour, or can do set-up or tear-down. Contact volunteer@theexiles.org to sign up.
Program Meeting Info

Program Meeting Info
Programs are on the third Friday of the month at the Women's Building in San Francisco. All women over 18, and those whose gender identification is other than male, are welcome to all of our events.

The Women's Building is located at 3543 18th Street at Valencia. Door fees are $4 for members and $10 for non-members. Please have your membership card or ID ready to speed entry.

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i little slow lately isnt it.

Wanderingwolf — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 01:39:24 GMT

its the holidays again, damnitt, always leaves me depressed. ANd now this tribe is getting slow while everyone here is getting ready to be happy with your loved ones. Hmm well, enjoy your holidays, merry christmas, happy hannukah, merry Yuletide, and happy Kwanzaa to everyone. wish i was there, drink one for me!

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Announcing Edition 2.6 of the International Carnival of Pozitivities (ICP)

Ron — Mon, 03 Dec 2007 21:33:36 GMT

Dear Friends of the International Carnival of Pozitivities (ICP):

It is a tremendous pleasure to announce the publication of edition 2.6 of the ICP at

http://www.dropdeadhappy.com/dropdeadhappy/ICP26.html

Mark Kokocki is our third host from Canada and our second from the Vancouver area after Roro at Creampuff Revolution. I encourage you to bookmark this edition and visit it over time so that you can enjoy each of the contributions from the world of HIV/AIDS. I hope that you will also join me in thanking Mark for his work this month and Giles of Slimconomy and Roro of Creampuff Revolution for the previous Canadian editions.

This 18th consecutive edition of the ICP features personal accounts, video, music, self-help information and the latest in news from the HIV/AIDS community. Among these posts,you will find news about HIV/AIDS in women and children, a good sampling of posts from long-term survivors, a Bollywood-like HIV prevention video from India, news and personal accounts from Africa, Asia, Europe, and North and South America, I hope that you will spend some time reading and that you will leave comments for the contributors.

Next Edition

Please visit the ICP homepage to learn more about this project and how you can contribute at the following link:

http://internationalcarnivalofpozitivities.blogspot.com

We are now accepting submissions for edition 2.7 to be hosted at The Spin Cycle, located here:

http://thespincycle.blogspot.com

This new edition marks the first time that the ICP will have been hosted outside of North America as we go to Australia for host Matty the Damned and the Spin Cycle team. It is notable that Matty and the Spin Cycle contributed the first post to the ICP’s first edition in June of 2006. Please consider contributing your original artwork, poetry, news, personal accounts, short stories, videos or music files for the next edition.

Please Share with Your Friends

Please share this notice with your friends and consider posting announcements of our link on your blogs and websites. Our continuing presence is bolstered by your participation and outreach. Please help spread the word.

Contribute Your Work

Please join the growing community of contributors and hosts for this important international forum for genuine voices of AIDS. If you are interested in hosting the ICP, please send an email to ron.hudson@verizon.net and I will make the process for you as painless as possible. We have hosts inline through February, 2008, but if you would like to host in March, 2008, or beyond, please let me know. I hope that you will consider signing up to host a specific edition of the ICP.

To be Removed From or Added To the ICP mailing list:

Please send an email to ron.hudson@verizon.net with the word REMOVE or SUBSCRIBE in your subject line to have your name removed from or added to, respectively, the ICP mailing list. If you did not receive notice of the ICP from me via direct email, then I do not have your email address in the mailing list. Please note that I can not remove an email address that does not exist on the mailing list. Your privacy is absolutely critical and no email addresses will be shared, sold or given to any other source. I use blind-copy distribution technology to prevent your identity from being revealed.

Peace to you and yours.

Ron Hudson

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definition of a Tranny chaser?

Wanderingwolf — Sun, 02 Dec 2007 04:08:47 GMT

what IS a chaser? what is it about them that is different than say someone that is just attracted to a transgendered person? i mean, if you find someone attractive and they happen to be trans how do you define the difference between a chaser and someone that is attracted to trans?

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trans to bio communications

Wanderingwolf — Sat, 17 Nov 2007 20:48:20 GMT

ive been reading a lot lately on trans issues and ive noticed that there is an awful lot of single trans people and single bio people that really really want to meet one another, and i keep seeing that they just dont hook up for some reason.At first i thought it was just chance and bad timing and the like, and then it was not going to the same places and then it was boiled down and now i think ive got it. ITs fear. plain and simple. Now, im guessing here, so please dont flame me if ive gotten this wrong, just MHO and all that, but what , exactly is everyone all afraid of? i mean, i konw there are some VERY real issues about dating these days and a woman alone among men is like blood in the water to a shark these days, but aside form this, why are so many people in the trans community so alone and so unhappy? i keep seeing so many trans people complaining about being alone, and i keep thinking, ( again, i may be wrong, im on the outside after all, looking in) whats keeping these people from hooking up, its like theres NO ONE out there for them and that t ifhey are theyre ALL just a bunch of chasers looking only for some tail, is this correct? is this for real? is the dating pool for trans people really so shallow? it bothers me a lot to see so many people unhappy for reasons i cant understand, im not looking for a sex partner, so dont get that into your head, im happy in my relationship, but seeing so many unhappy lonely people really bothers me. it really seems to me, that it has a lot to do with communication, i think theres an awful lot of fear on both sides and until that is addressed in a practical manner so many people are going to remain unhappy and single and alone, which really sucks. i want my friends and the people around me to be happy, it makes my world a little brighter and its just plain BETTER.
Thoughts on communication and fears on both sides? maybe a little culture bridging is necessary? yes/no?

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ICP 17 is now Available. I hope you are finding it helpful and interesting.

Ron — Mon, 12 Nov 2007 03:06:11 GMT

Dear Friends of the International Carnival of Pozitivities (ICP):

The 17th consecutive edition of the ICP is now available at the following link:

http://slimconomy.blogspot.com/2007/11/w-elcome-to-november-10-2007-edition-of.html

This edition is the second to have been hosted by a Canadian blogger and the second to be hosted internationally. Please join me in thanking Giles at Slimconomy for his participation as our host this month. As usual, this edition features personal accounts, video, self-help information and the latest in news from the HIV/AIDS community. I hope that you will spend some time reading and that you will leave comments for the contributors.

Next Edition

Please visit the ICP homepage at the following link to learn more about this project and how you can contribute:

http://internationalcarnivalofpozitivities.blogspot.com/

We are now accepting submissions for edition 18 to be hosted at Drop Dead Happy, located here:

http://www.dropdeadhappy.com

Please consider contributing your original artwork, poetry, news, personal accounts, short stories, videos or music files for the next edition.

Please Share with Your Friends

Please share this notice with your friends and consider posting announcements of our link on your blogs and websites. Our continuing presence is bolstered by your participation and outreach. Please help spread the word.

Contribute Your Work

I hope that you will join the growing community of contributors and hosts for this important international forum for genuine voices of AIDS. If you are interested in hosting the ICP, please send me a message and I will make the process for you as painless as possible. Return hosts are welcome! We have hosts in line through December, 2007, but need to start recruiting new hosts for next year right now!! I hope that you will consider signing up to host a specific edition of the ICP.

To be Removed From or Added To the ICP mailing list:

Please send me a message with the word REMOVE or SUBSCRIBE in your subject line to have your name removed from or added to, respectively, the ICP mailing list. If you did not receive notice of the ICP from me via direct email, then I do not have your email address in the mailing list. Please note that I can not remove an email address that does not exist on the mailing list.

Peace to you and yours.

Ron Hudson

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Love, Sex, and Dominance

PussycatInLights — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 19:12:33 GMT

(I'd totally forgotten about this site, I guess I'll start posting again)

Can anyone else identify with this?

I've considered myself pansexual for quite some time, though I tend to prefer males (bio and transmen) romantically and females (bio and transwomen) sexually. I never really knew why and just chalked it up to everyone being different in what they like. I should also note that I'm pre-op and I've only actually been with bio men and women.

After a recent experience, I think I finally understand why I've been so turned off by all the men I've been with: not only do they treat me as a woman, but they always want to be tops*, sexually and otherwise. Even if I try to ignore this and act the way that I want to act, it's like it's just cute and playful for a "female" to try to be a top, but expected of men. Even with the most submissive and/or understanding** men, it still ends up being very "I'm the man, you're the woman" in bed and when decisions need to be made, and it just completely puts me off. I find myself not getting turned on and instead thinking things like "Who the hell do you think you are? I'm not a toy. I'm not acting dominant just to turn *you* on." I get so disgusted that it just puts me off to everything. I don't want a master, I want a partner, an equal.. someone to take care of because *I* want to, not because I'm expected to.

*lack of a better word

**understanding of my being trans and not just some "tomboy"

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"Nature delights in diversity. ...

Maude-Dib — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 19:04:38 GMT

Why don't human beings?"

Lola Cola, "Southern Comfort"

I just watched that documentary last night. It was really lovely. This quote was the final line in the movie. It was said with such tenderness.

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ask the submissive

lightbringer — Mon, 05 Nov 2007 17:18:43 GMT

The Society of Janus, a well respected pansexual kink organization here in San Francisco is reaching out to the community at large for this upcoming panel discussion, moderated by one of our own. Please take a moment to consider this event:

Janus Presents: "Ask the bottom", an evening of Q&A with a cross- selection of local personalities on the bottom/submissive/slave/boy/girl/ property side of the SM Power continuum.

Tuesday, November 13
SF Citadel
8:00pm - 10:00pm (Doors open at 7:00pm)
$5 for Janus Members, $15 for non-members (you do not
need to be a member to attend)

What motivates a person to walk the path of slavery? What does a submissive want? What joys do those on the bottoming end of the equation receive from their relationships - and what frustrations? What are the differences that distinguish bottom, slave, boy/girl, submissive, proeprty, and how on earth do we come to those definitions?

Ever wanted to ask questions like these, or others? Then this is an opportunity to pick the brains of an awesome and distinguished line-
up of local SM community teachers, players, mentors and activists.

We have a terrifically diverse panel for you: jody / patrick / boyjean / mercedes / andrea / slavebill have all agreed to answer your questions and share their thoughts and motivations on why they do what they do. bethie Hope O will facilitate the questions and keep the discussion moving smoothly.

This will be a moderated discussion panel, with the opportunity to submit written inquiries anonymously as well as ask your questions
directly. Please join us for this rare opportunity to delve into the mind of these mysterious and intelligent people. You may also send
questions about the event or questions to be discussed at the event to programs at soj dot org

Bethie Hope O identifies as a service-oriented slave and adult little girl. She is very blessed to be a ollared slave to her Daddy for the past 2 years. Bethie believes in creating open, supportive communities and is active in both the BDSM and age play communities. She is honored to be an officer in the Society of Janus and she is the creator and moderator of Submissive Safe Space; a monthly discussion group comprised of like minded submissives and slaves. On-line Bethie moderates discussion groups for age play, submission and survivors of abuse and trauma. She lives in the East Bay area with her Daddy, four dogs, 2 turtles and an obscene quantity of stuffed animals. Her favorite crayon is cornflower blue, unsharpened.

slavebill has been an active member of the Leather Community for almost 20 years and is in his 12th year of service to his Master. he is a co-founder of the San Francisco chapter of the Defenders, has served on the Steering Committee of the Leathermen's Discussion Group and has participated in many workshops including Leather Levi Weekend, the San Francisco boys of Leather, and the Society of Janus. he was a co-sponsor of the Leather Traditions' Service Weekend held last May. In addition to being a 24x7 non-live-in slave, he has a non-leather partner of 25+ years who is understanding and accepting of bill's calling to service as a slave.

Steve Ward has been a member of the Bay Area Leather / kink community for 10 years. He joined the San Francisco boys of Leather in 2002, and was mentored by many of the more prominent Bay Area Dominants and submissives. Steve serves the 15 Association, as member of the Fraternal Committee and Membership Coordinator. He is also President of the Defenders San Francisco, is a steering committee member of the Leathermen’s Discussion Group, and a representative to the San Francisco Leather Forum. Steve has been involved with Leather-Levi Week-end from 2003 through 2006, on the Spirituality Committee, and organized their annual Cocktail Party to welcome newcomers to the community. In his spare time, Steve is a committee member of the upcoming Leather Leadership Conference 12, to be held in 2008 in San Francisco, and is on a newly-formed Bay Area ad hoc committee of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom.
Steve is 55, single…..and always looking for new opportunities.

patrick was a late bloomer to BDSM. Growing up in a Catholic household in a small, rural Southern town, he had no clue that including hot wax, needles and rope to his youthful explorations of his body meant he was masochistic; it just felt good. Fast-forward to Folsom Street Fair 2003, where his heart melted and his cock hardened watching a Daddy flog His boy. Finally, after reading the "Beauty Series" pushed him to the point of no return, he had his first scene and was introduced to his boy-self. Since entering the public scene, he has had the good fortune never to have served a Dominant unworthy of his submission, and twice has proudly worn the collars of exceptional Men. Currently, he is a slave-in-training to Master Patrick Mulcahey, whom he knows loves and treasures him. he believes in the importance of giving back to his community, and when his work schedule and Master allow, enjoys volunteering at leather events.

andrea Arkouda started her lifestyle journey in 2003 in search of a relationship in which trust was valued above all else. For her, service and obedience are the avenues to achieving a deep interpersonal connection, and completion. she served her first Master for two years, and is now in service to and wears the collar of consideration of Eric Arkouda. With him, she lives a 24/7 M/s lifestyle, and together they host the San Francisco D/s Discussion Group.

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Has anyone else experienced these two issues ?:

lowpockets — Wed, 05 Sep 2007 01:16:33 GMT

This is known only by an **extremely small number of people**, however I am transgendered,
( male-to-female ) and started transition back in 1970, when I was 22 years old, and completed all of the medical / surgical procedures in January 1976 , when I was 28 years old .. ...

My life has been wonderful, and have moved around in society really well after 1976, and am now retired from a really great 30-year career.

I'll be 60 years old this coming March of 2008 , and I'm wondering if any other TS/TG people identify with this issue, as I have two questions in which I'd like to have some feedback..

Question #1:

For me, my past has always felt like a dark void because I never had the opportunity to experience elementary, junior high, and high school in my preferred (female) gender and have always wanted to be able to experience all of the things that I really missed out on... Yes, it may sound silly , however this may be a common problem among other transgendered people who have successfully moved on in their lives in that there seems (to me) that I always have this empty spot due to all the school-age experiences that were always from the *wrong perspective* ..

--->> So what are ways to make up for, or recreate, those experiences that didn't happen ???

Question #2:

All too common with transgendered people is the loss of one's parents because one's parents spend more time judging their child instead of listening and wanting to understand their child .. My way of coping with this was via a friendship I have had with someone for many years who was about 10 years older than I. We have been close friends for about 25 years. . After a few years I finally shared with him over lunch one day that my parents ended their relationship with me long ago, and after their attempts to reconcile with me about four times, there was never a constructive resolution.. This conversation, and his acceptance of me was back in the 1979 through 1986 time period. He kind of *adopted* me in a manner of speaking, as another of his daughters, and he was the type of father I would have really wanted as my real father..

He and his wife would invite me (and my partner) to their house for the holidays each year, and it really felt like family, and was really special for me ... well, two years ago his wife died, and this June, he passed away also ... Again, for me, I experience this dark void in not having family even though my real parents are very much alive and don't want anything to do with me no matter how happy I've been otherwise, or how great my career has been ....

---->> Are there ways to have a substitute pair of parents ??

In case you may be wondering, yes I was in therapy years ago during my transition, though these two questions simply didn't grab me as much as they do now ... I was seeing a therapist for the past four years, however those sessions have been about my career-related stress level, and adjusting to retired life.

Overall, the specific questions above are the only things that are tugging at me at the moment ... your thoughts ??

Regards ..

Elaine

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Books for Research

sara — Mon, 29 Oct 2007 10:35:30 GMT

Hello,
I am presenting and writing a proposal to add G.I.E. to the anti-discrimination laws in Tampa.
I need to find texts that pertain to trans-rights, trans-issues, genderqueer, etc.
I have googled many things, but I do not know who is THE scholar(s) in these issues or who is most renowned. I have web sources, but lack a more academic basis. I am basically looking for a 101 book on anything trans/queer. I need to be able to field basic questions on this topic almost expertly. (So- the less dense the better- considering I am in a time crunch). I am trying to avoid looking like an idiot when I present this information in a week to the Human Rights Board in Tampa.
The most difficult questions, according to my attorney, will involve bathroom use while transitioning. Personal stories will be most valuable.
Also,
If you know of any books/experience on personal stories pertaining to violations of rights (because of being queer/trans) such as: housing discrimination, employment, bathroom use, crime, etc. THAT would me very valuable.
Thank you for your input!
-Sara

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Andro gel anyone?...

(((Sky))) Nebeulah faerie faggot — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 16:15:37 GMT

Does anyone out there have a connection with the testosterone...andro gel? I had the opportunity to start, and have been taking T for a month now. The person who I got it from only had a months worth. I really want to continue taking T. I would love to find someone, somehow who might have a perscription, who can help me out. I am willing to do all sorts of trade, or cough up some cold hard cash...
if this sounds like something you can help me with please contact me...
Sky-
206-208-9113 voicemail #

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Anyone here going to Primal in December ?

lowpockets — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 21:47:47 GMT

This December will be my first time at Primal, and was curious if anyone on this Tribe is also planning to attend .. especially those who may have chatted with me on this Tribe

Elaine

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Questions about energy level and recovery after orchiectomy

daraz — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 19:01:47 GMT

I've heard that after surgery energy level goes way down for a while (up to a year or so) until the body adjusts to the reduced T, though this was reported by folks doing everything at once. I'm doing the orchiectomy soon and then the vaginoplasty hopefully in ~2 years.

For anyone out there that has already done the orchiectomy: did your energy level drop significantly after surgery? Also, how long did it take for you to be able to do all normal activity again including biking (i usually commute to work that way) and sports (i do tennis).

I've been on injectible E for a while, and recently been battling a lot of fatigue, so maybe my body is already beginning that adjustment period already...?

Thanks!

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Transgender Bellydancers....

krazy4krsna — Fri, 19 Oct 2007 23:36:42 GMT

I just created a tribe for those of us interested in bellydance......please join and unite!

Zenana Tribal Bellydance

Zenana Tribe is a forum for Transgender Tribal Bellydancers.....we embrace the fullest and broadest meanings of both "transgender" and "tribal"!!! Show divas, Drag queens, CD's, Transgenderists, Transvestites, Transexuals, Bigenderists, et al are welcome here......let's explore and share our experiences about ATS, tribal dance, tribal fusion, tribal-folk, Indian-tribal, urban-tribal, triberet, etc.

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transgender documentaries?

Maude-Dib — Mon, 15 Oct 2007 17:03:16 GMT

I have a friend who has been officially reassigned and is working their way through transition.

I am interested in finding documentaries on the subject so I can see more about what they are going through.

I found one called "Southern Comfort" but am looking for others as well.

If you know of any good ones, please let me know.

thanks!

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