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Re: Two Families Grapple with Son's Gender Preferences
Wed, May 14, 2008 - 1:29 PMi wasn't the craziest about the pronoun use on the kid who has for all intents and purposes transitioned, and the doctor in toronto sounds like a mean old sicko, frankly.
i did transition fairly young so i tend to kind of be a live wire on these topics. i know that if i had been put through what dr. zucker wants people to be put through, i'd be dead, whether by my hand or someone else's, i don't know which.
i think it all comes down to whether the parents understand they're dealing with something that's hard to change, and that yeah, you'll probably end up being a social pariah but your kid's not going to pitch themselves off a bridge and is way more likely to go on to have a more normal life. i really have a pretty normal life for the most part and i think that's because my parents didn't push me into something i wasn't, though it created some horrible internal family strife which has for the most part become water under the bridge. -
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Re: Two Families Grapple with Son's Gender Preferences
Wed, May 14, 2008 - 9:26 PMI pretty much agree. I've been trying to find out more about him and the clinic he works in and from what I've gathered they're clinging on to some really bad theories, their theories of course. The basic assumptions they have is that gender is malleable, boys can be raised as girls and transgendered girls should be raised as boys. The reason they should do this is to spare the children the pain of going through a sex change and from being ostracized both boys and girls or difficulty in forming future relationships. They view that as the worst thing someone can go through, and realigning their gender as children will spare them of that. Of course the treatments he recommends are traumatizing and creating a whole set of mental illnesses that will trouble them into adulthood. I mean it is clear the problem really doesn't go away, its just being covered up.
Children are amazingly accepting, even grown adults are. The worst thing parents can do is make their child uncomfortable with who they are, they are robbing them of the strength to handle adulthood. I believe anyone can be happy and accepted with enough confidence in who they are. Fuck being normal, some of the happiest people I know are "freaks" because they are just being themselves and were never taught to feel ashamed of themselves.
Err, anyway. Ken Zucker makes me mad, as do his colleagues. There are incredibly obvious flaws within their own work (ignoring all the outside research which has proven them wrong).
www.youtube.com/watch
www.youtube.com/watch
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Two Families Grapple with Son's Gender Preferencestopic posted Sun, May 11, 2008 - 4:03 PM by Diane |
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